2011年7月5日星期二

Unload Your Romantic Baggage

Even if you’re over your ex, your romantic history has a funny (in a sick sort of way) tendency of creeping into life with your new partner. “The relationships we invest in the most, regardless of how long we were in them or how long ago they happened, are the ones that have the biggest impact on us,” says Terri Orbuch, Ph.D., a research professor at the Institute for Social Research at the University of Michigan and author of 5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great. “And if things went awry in those relationships, we often carry the anger or insecurity into our subsequent romances.”Cheap MBT Shoes

So how do you prevent the past from coming back to haunt you? Claim your baggage by coming clean to your current mate (sparing him the dirty details, of course). According to a study published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, people experienced a heightened sense of intimacy after revealing personal info, such as their ex-related issues, and felt more valued and supported. Forge ahead by following this advice.MBT Sandals

Baggage: Your Partner Cheated on You

Almost anything your guy does that’s not completely straightforward will evoke feelings of distrust, explains JoAnn Magdoff, Ph.D., a psychotherapist in New York City. People who were cheated on in the past may find themselves setting traps and checking on their new partner, asking them questions they know the answers to, and assuming their partner is lying. You may end up jumping down his throat and accusing him of things he didn’t do, which may understandably infuriate him and ultimately threaten your union, says psychologist Christie Hartman, Ph.D., author of It’s Not Him, It’s You: The Truth You May Not Want but Need to Hear.

Unload it: Make it clear that while your trust issues have nothing to do with him, you equate his vagueness with being lied to. “Tell him that because of your past, you assume the worst when he’s unclear,” says Magdoff, and that keeping you in the loop and being specific will go a long way toward helping you feel more connected and secure. This will translate into more happiness for you both.

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Anyone who’s dated a yeller and screamer is going to want to avoid confrontation in a subsequent relationship because they’re scared of a nasty fight breaking out. But anger is a necessary emotion, and both parties need to be able to express it appropriately.

“Instead of understanding that conflict is an important part of all relationships, someone who had an angry partner might see disagreements as a sign the relationship is headed for trouble,” says Orbuch.

Unload it: Accept your anger—and his. “What’s important is how you disagree, not whether you disagree,” says Orbuch. Rather than recoiling or biting your tongue during a disagreement, step back and take a break. Sweat away the anger (and clear your head) on a run, or agree to take a 10-minute walk around the block and then regroup. This will defuse some of the hostility, giving you a more comfortable environment to air your grievances.

Baggage: Your Ex Criticized Your Looks

It’s easy to understand how someone who was called ugly or fat-assed by an ex might have trouble accepting a new dude’s compliments. Because romantic relationships carry such powerful meaning and weight—and because a romantic partner sees you without your clothes on—criticism within the context of intimacy can be particularly damaging, explains Thomas Bradbury, Ph.D., codirector of the Relationship Institute at the University of California at Los Angeles. “Even the most confident people can feel a painful twinge if an intimate partner criticizes their appearance. These comments can cut you to the core,” he says. If a past partner made disparaging remarks about your weight, you may feel uncomfortable eating in front of your new man or showing off your body, which may cause you to avoid sex and intimacy altogether, says Orbuch.MBT Katika Women's Sandals

Unload it: Know that your ex’s slams were much more about him than you. “Anyone who insults or criticizes a partner in this way is massively insecure and is making a desperate attempt to cover up a deep sense of inferiority,” says Hartman. Translation: He may not have thought those things about you but felt compelled to cut you down to prop himself up. To make sure you take your new guy’s loving words to heart, stop yourself from dismissing his praise and affection. “There’s only one way to handle a compliment: Say thank you, and mean it,” says Hartman. “After a while, the kind words will sink in.”
Baggage: You Dated a Partyer

Because your last boyfriend left you high and dry to booze it up with his buddies, you may become clingy, bossy, or prone to nagging your new guy—in other words, a pretty big buzzkill. You could even become a teetotaler, choosing to avoid parties and any social scenario where alcohol is involved because of your ex and his habits, says Orbuch.
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Unload it: Before you bust out the at-home Breathalyzer, take a moment to analyze the situation rationally. How many times did he go out this week? Two? And where was he the other nights? With you? Sounds like a guy who has his priorities straight.

And remind yourself that a person who likes to go out and party with his friends doesn’t necessarily have a problem, says Magdoff. In fact, it’s totally normal behavior, provided it doesn’t happen all the time and he’s not coming home and passing out on the bathroom floor on a regular basis.




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2011年7月4日星期一

Why Don’t Women Want to Bike in New York?

Women don’t seem to want to bike in New York City. According to the New York Times, male cyclists outnumber women three to one, statistics which seem to be fairly unique to New York. In European cities famous for biking like Copenhagen or Amsterdam, women are actually the majority of bikers. And even compared to other U.S. cities like Washington, DC or San Francisco, the numbers of female cyclists in New York are pitifully low.MBT Jawabu Women's Sandals

Experts speculate that women are staying out of NYC’s bike lanes because the city is particularly unsafe for cyclists. ”Other cities in the United States and Canada have indeed made cycling much, much safer than it is in New York,” explained John Pucher, a professor at Rutgers. And if bikers in New York are, overall, more likely to feel unsafe, then women may be the ones who simply choose to stay off the road.MBT Katika Women's Sandals

City officials say that they’re making steps to improve the city’s bike lanes, and to make the streets safer for cyclists. But they may not be doing enough. In Portland, Oregon, male cyclists outnumbered women in the early 1990s by a 4 to 1 ratio. By 2006, however, the ratio had shrunk by half. Coordinators say that this was in large part due to city efforts to make the lanes safer for all bikers.

There are other issues that may be unique to New York, however. Women could, according to the NYT’s Christine Haughney, be more unwilling to show up to corporate jobs sweaty or carrying a lot of cycling gear.

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When I was younger, I lived in Denmark, one of the cycling capitals of the world. There, it’s incredibly easy to get around on a bike. There are well-maintained lanes (some of them even with their own traffic lights!), weather that doesn’t make you sweat profusely (unlike New York City in July), and a culture that encourages everyone to use biking as their main form of transportation (and an obsession with fashion to rival NYC: I saw many, many women biking in high heels). And it was liberating.MBT Panda Women's Sandals As a thirteen-year-old, I loved being able to jump on my bike and ride down to the local Blockbuster to get a movie, rather than waiting for my parents to give me a ride. Now, living in an East Coast city, I understand all of the cyclists’ concerns. But the solution is to figure out how to get women comfortable with bike culture, to dial down the obsession with fashion, and – perhaps more importantly –Cheap MBT Sandals to make the roads safer for cyclists.

New York is, for many reasons, a more challenging place to be a cyclist than Copenhagen or Amsterdam. But the Big Apple can learn lessons from other cities when it comes to getting women into the bike lanes. Biking is sustainable, practical, and even fun. Could New York City become more of a cyclists’ town?MBT Shoes Maybe it needs to take a few lessons from Portland.

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7 Ways to Have a Healthy Road Trip

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Unless you’re just throwing an overnight bag in the backseat and hitting the road for a short two-day trip, you’ll save your back some ache if you pack the night before you leave. Fluids pool in your spinal disks while you sleep, and that makes your lower back tight and sensitive to irritation when you first wake up.MBT Shoes

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It’s important to get out of the vehicle and move your body around every two to three hours. Although it’s most common in air travelers, car drivers and passengers can suffer from deep-vein thrombosis,MBT Sandals a blood clot in the legs, if circulation isn’t encouraged with some standing and walking. (Flexing your ankles every so often helps.) Plan your stops around mealtimes and you’ll be less likely to mindlessly munch on snacks while you’re driving. Even if you stop for 15 minutes or less to eat a handful of nuts, you’ll send a signal to your brain that you’ve eaten so you won’t be hungry 30 minutes later.

You don’t want a staycation? Beat high gas prices by carpooling, or taking buses.

4. Adjust your position.

Drivers can avoid slouching by tilting the rearview mirror up a little bit. This will help you sit up straighter to see out the back window, and prevent low-back pain at the same time.

5. Plan some vacation exercising.

Exercising on vacation doesn’t sound like much fun, but you shouldn’t allow a break in your daily routine to totally override healthy behaviors. If you’re going somewhere touristy where you know sightseeing will be in order, MBT Sneakersyou can let your walking time count as exercise. But people who are headed to the beach can also enjoy an early-morning walk (walking on sand is a great calorie burner) or swim in the ocean—trying to move against the current can expend a ton of energy. Or you can park the car and venture into town on a rented bike, or your own two feet. Walking is the best way to learn about a new city or get to know a seaside town you’ve never visited before.
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7. Try the rails.

If you live near an Amtrak station, pick a city a few hours, or even a day, away, and discover somewhere new. Or, visit www.railstotrails.org and combine your camping trip with a bike ride (or hike) along an old rail line that’s been converted to a nature trail.





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2011年4月14日星期四

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April 12, 2011 (WASHINGTON) – The new state of South Sudan that will officially see the light in less than three months is exempt from the decade-long sanctions imposed on the entire country, the United States said today.
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"For example, the [Sudan Sanctions Regulations] SSR will prohibit a U.S. company, unless authorized by OFAC, from providing services to the petroleum industry in the new state if those services would benefit the Government of Sudan or relate to the petroleum industry in Sudan, or from transporting exports of petroleum or petrochemical products through Sudan.".
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